Author Archives: Kit Troyer

About Kit Troyer

Kit Troyer lives in Los Angeles. He worked previously as a newspaper reporter and a criminal defense attorney. For the last 15 years, he has been a stay-at-home dad. But that gig is running out. Kids will soon be moving out and moving on.

WHILE I WAS AWAY

As I got ready to leave town for 10 days, I worried about the baby hummingbirds near my porch. I had watched them each day as they began to move around and make noise and ask their mother for food. … Continue reading

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HUMMINGBIRDS AND BEETLES

I almost made a catastrophic error yesterday with the hummingbird nest. As far as I could tell, the mother had vanished three days earlier. She was no longer sitting on her eggs, she wasn’t feeding any new hatchlings. She was … Continue reading

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OKAY I LIED ABOUT THE HERMIT THING

There’s an old Buddhist story about monks raking up leaves at their monastery before a visit from a revered guru. When the guru arrives, he looks out at the beautiful grounds with an appreciative smile, then raises his hand as … Continue reading

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WHEN THINGS GO SOUTH

There’s a song by Lori McKenna called “God Never Made One of Us to Be Alone.” On the one hand, she’s probably right. Humans are social animals after all. On the other hand, as a lifelong introvert with a deep … Continue reading

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BACKYARD MYSTERY

One springtime years ago, when my children were young and life was hectic, a small domestic mystery nagged at me for two or three weeks. Sometimes when I entered my backyard through a side gate, I would hear a sudden … Continue reading

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CLOVER MITES

The following conversation was edited for clarity. KIT: Thank you so much for reaching out. CLOVER MITE: Yeah the ‘red microspider’ thing was unfortunate. We were kind of shaking our heads about that one. KIT: I’m so sorry. But I … Continue reading

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GRANDDADDY JUDGE

When I was young, I could keep track of several things at once. I could read a book while listening to the news on TV, a hockey game on the radio, or a family conversation. Now, at 53, I’ve lost … Continue reading

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MY DESERT-ISLAND CHORE

My wife likes doing laundry. It’s a welcome break from her day job, which tends to be demanding, highly social, draining. Doing laundry, on the other hand, is quiet and solitary, the clothes warm and fragrant when she pulls them … Continue reading

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STORM-DRAIN DIRT

I looked back the other day at something I wrote at the beginning of the pandemic. The piece seems naive, ill informed, and overly optimistic. But the basic thesis remains true — there were silver linings to the Covid lockdown, … Continue reading

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CONVERSATION WITH A SPIDER

I always feel pretty good about myself when I relocate a spider from the house to the garden. But the experience probably feels different for the spider. If the two of us could talk, the conversation might go like this: … Continue reading

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